To: You From: Me | Get Out of Your Way


You probably have a list of daily goals and over half never get done. You also probably already know that you can talk yourself out of doing something longer than it might actually take to just do it. Every day that you are blessed enough to wake up, you get to make choices. Get out of your own way of deciding NOT do what needs to be done and just DO what needs to be done. You can do this. This isn’t a deep secret reserved for a select few. You deserve to make the choices that move you closer to your goals. There are plenty of things in life that are beyond your control. Therefore, the things that are in your control you better steer in the direction that you want to go as best as you can. Make it a habit to get out of your way and then you will be on the way to reaching your goals. ~trvw

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Power of Compliments

Kind words are almost always appreciated and can certainly make an impression on a person. Flattery is fun but sincere remarks are the words that help encourage someone. It takes a strong person to step out of her comfort zone and recognize another for their note worthy characteristic. People of strength pulling up others will make the world unbreakable. ~trvw

Was the last compliment one that you gave or got?

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No Whining!

nosignDo yourself a big favor and stop whining about your disease! Now that I have your attention please don’t think I’m a cold-blooded witch with no compassion, quite the opposite.  If you live with a chronic illness, sometimes the best things you can do to help yourself is to refuse to indulge in whining and complaining about how awful it is.

It is true that dealing with a disease like JRA or Type 1 diabetes is a pain literally and figuratively. It’s not fair and it has a laundry list of negative aspects. However, complaining yields counterproductive results. If you give attention to the bad thoughts and feelings you give power to them. You give them an opportunity to manifest into more negative thoughts which does nothing in your favor for feeling better.

Instead, put those lousy thoughts on the backburner to fry! Take a break from the bad feelings as a chance to tell yourself how strong you are for dealing with such junk – because you are! It takes a brave soul to handle the cards that you have been dealt, so pat yourself on the back and put on a smile for a change.

You deserve to sulk every now and then, but make it few and far between by concentrating on positive thoughts. You deserve to feel happy and feel good for being strong. It might not be easy to do in the beginning, but keep at it and it will get easier. You have much to gain by thinking positive. Positive thoughts manifest and your health will benefit too.

How do you cope when negative thinking creeps into your head? Let us know! If you need a jump start here are some tips from an article titled, “Positive Thinking Can Bring Good Health”. -pm

  • Look for a good role model. There is always someone who seems to be doing just what you want to be doing. Maybe they’ve scheduled exercise into their workday and switched from coffee to herbal tea. Learn from a successful friend, family member or colleague. Ask them how they keep healthy and follow in their footsteps.
  • Try some positive self-talk and avoid negative-talk. Take a minute to give yourself an ego boost. Repeat some motivational words out loud or to yourself. Negative talk, “I can’t do it,” “I’m fat,” is dangerous for your well-being and healthy goals. Try to avoid the negative self-talk before it harms you. Remind yourself that you deserve happiness and can make positive changes.
  • Get support. Tell your friends and family about your healthy habits. It helps to have an encouraging network.
  • Reward yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back for your healthy efforts. Take a nice bath, get a massage, and enjoy a new DVD or CD.
  • Have a plan. Making a plan to exercise or eat healthy lunches with a friend can mean the difference of sticking with your goals or falling off track. If you’ve planned for an activity, you’ll likely stick with it. You may even find that writing down your goals and steps to achieve them can help you stay on track. Take it day by day or week by week. The process of writing down your personal action plan is a good way to keep you honest and watch your progress or pitfalls.
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Passion and Purpose in Life, What to “Be”

pathIt seems that my whole life I have been trying to figure our what I want to “be”. I’ve always known that #1 on my list was to “be happy”. Beyond that has been a struggle. Trying to narrow down what I am supposed to “be” in this life is a challenge personally.  Determined to “be” something I went to college, worked in my field of study, but still felt I was lacking in knowing my purpose. So I studied personal growth; I read the The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren, sought out tips from The Secret, and I did learn valuable insight to apply toward living a fuller life. But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.

A few things that I do know are that passion drives purpose. In other words, if you are passionate about something and know how to apply that passion every day then your purpose will unfold naturally before you. Trying to do something every day that leaves you lifeless and bored will never result in bliss. What we are meant to “be” is yielded by discovering the passions that we are each gifted with.

The people in the world that we see as successful, rich, and happy have figured out how to use their gifts with passion and as a result the rewards follow. Paul McCartney has been so successful because he loves music, he has a gift for it and for entertaining. He took his gift, passionately used it, and the rest fell into place. If you know your gifts then don’t be afraid to apply passion to drive yourself to the level that you long to “be.”

Using your gifts and applying passion don’t have to be full time, part time is ok – so long as you are letting the gift you’ve been given bring you, and potentially others, happiness. While you are fueling those gifts with passion, then eventually, spark by spark it will explode and you will “be” what you are destined to “be”.

Now, for me and maybe many of you, the problem is not understanding happiness. I know that it’s isn’t solely in a big bank account, or by external circumstances. It’s by igniting passion. It’s by using your gifts passionately and generously. My problem is unveiling gift(s). Trying to discover if I have at least one gift that I can “be” and how to power it with passion as a means to make a difference in my life and in others.

I have big dreams and goals in my life. One of the many is that I want to reach and inspire people to excel by the words I write. I take steps every day to develop my writing and hope that it is a gift with real potential, so that I can “be” an appreciated writer. Some people are lucky because they have a clear vision of what they are destined to “be”. Others have to dig some and that is ok. It’s a journey that teaches along the way – so be sure to notice that the stepping stones advance you in your journey and they aren’t just obstacles to slow you down. Do everything in your power to discover your gifts and passions with the same zest that you will use to maintain them once you have found them.

Any step forward is an advancing step regardless of it’s size.  Even a small percentage of gain will eventually add up over time.  Zen Habits must have read my mind with the latest article titled, “The 5% Trick: Finding Passion and Purpose in Life. One of the tips for taking action discusses the 5% Statement:

“My favorite tool at this stage is the 5% statement, created by Nathaniel Branden, who is widely considered to be the father of the self-esteem movement. It works by allowing you to take steps in small increments. Trying to change completely overnight, as some might suggest, often creates fear, uncertainty, and resistance.”

The universe is full of possibilities. We must see what we want before can attempt to grab it. If it’s unclear then make it your passion to find your passion. Fight for living your life with purpose the way it’s meant to “be”.      -pm


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